Relationships Phase 1 Day 7: What are you a clearing for?


We’ve looked generally at the state of your relationships so far and now we’re going to look at.... you.

...or, more accurately, you are going to look at you. 

It’s surprising how often people seem to be surprised when it’s pointed out that the common factor in all of their relationships is them. You are the common factor in all of your relationships... even the non-existent ones. 

What kind of relationships are you prepared to have? One clue, it’s the kind you currently have. 

We get what we’re a clearing for. That might sound metaphysical and squishy but ultimately it’s true. 

We can’t lift weight that we’re not strong enough to lift, and we can’t have relationships that we’re not prepared or willing to have. 

This is a bit of a touchy subject for those in bad relationships. This kind of talk can land as blame, but it’s not. 

What we’re talking about is claiming responsibility for the relationships in your life. Again, this is not blame, this is a place of power.

Once you embrace your responsibility for how you are socially and what you have in terms of relationships, you can do something about it. 

If you are where you want to be, you can keep doing what you’re doing and know that you’re driving forward the life you want. 

If you’re not where you want to be, relationship-wise then now’s a chance to figure out why. 

So, what kind of relationships ARE you prepared to have? What are you open to? What are you closed to? What terrifies you? What fulfills you? What inspires you? What do you want but think you can’t have? What do you settle for? 

What kind of relationships are you a clearing for?


Ask yourself what kind of relationships you’re open to and what kind of relationships you’re a clearing for in the various kinds of relationship groups you’ve identified in your life.